Five Things the Happiest Retirees Do Differently
If you ask most people what they need for a successful retirement, the answer usually comes back in dollars.
If you ask most people what they need for a successful retirement, the answer usually comes back in dollars. “I need $2,000,000, $80,000 per year from my portfolio, and a paid off mortgage.”
The money matters, but after decades of research and talking with our clients, one thing is clear: the happiest retirees treat retirement as a life transition, not a math problem.
Here are five habits that show up time and again in the lives of our clients who are thriving in retirement.
1. They Invest in Relationships
The most consistent finding from a Harvard Study of Adult Development — the longest-running study of adult life ever conducted, now in its 88th year — is that the quality of your relationships predicts your happiness, your physical health, and even your longevity better than wealth, IQ, or genetics.
Dr. Robert Waldinger, the study’s director, has been blunt about loneliness: it’s as harmful to your health as smoking or alcoholism. Here’s the catch — work tends to provide a lot of social interaction by default. When that scaffolding disappears at retirement, many people are surprised by how isolated they suddenly feel.
The happiest retirees see this coming and prepare for it. They strengthen friendships outside of work. They schedule the lunch, get the tee time, and make the phone call. A simple starting point: name the five or six people you most want to be closer with in retirement — and then ask yourself what you’re doing this month to nurture those relationships.
2. They Have a Reason to Get Out of Bed
Multiple studies have linked a strong sense of purpose to lower mortality, reduced cardiovascular disease, and better mental health.
We talk to retirees every day, the ones that are happiest almost always have something they’re working toward. It doesn’t have to be grand. It can be:
- Volunteering for a cause that matters to them
- Caring for grandchildren or aging parents
- A creative project — writing, woodworking, gardening, music
- A part-time role or consulting work they enjoy
- A new skill they’re learning
Purposefully working towards something provides structure and meaning. Retirement without either tends to drift.
3. They Spend Wisely, On the Right Things
This surprises people, but it shows up repeatedly: many of our retirees who can afford to enjoy themselves don’t. After 30 or 40 years of disciplined saving, flipping the switch from saver to spender is genuinely hard.
“Saver” becomes an identity, not just a behavior. For decades, the rule has been don’t touch the principal, keep saving, and defer the reward. Retirement asks for the opposite. Permission to enjoy what you’ve built is a habit, and it must be practiced.
Building a structure around spending is a good place to start…
- Setting up automatic monthly transfers from investment accounts to checking mimics the rhythm of working years. The money that arrives feels more like a paycheck, and less like “spending down savings”.
- When Social Security, pensions, and portions of portfolio income help cover the basics, the rest of the portfolio is now set aside for the life you want — travel, hobbies, charitable giving. Discretionary spending feels less risky once the essentials are budgeted for.
- Keeping an emergency fund of 9-12 months of spending in cash or equivalents, gives you something concrete to point to when markets drop. “This year’s spending is already set aside in cash” is a remarkably calming sentence.
And when it’s time to spend? Spend on experiences, not things. Dr. Waldinger of the Harvard study puts it simply: buy experiences, not stuff. Material things invite comparison, while experiences either strengthen existing relationships or help create new ones.
4. Informed, But Not Consumed
Some of the happiest retirees share a quiet habit: they don’t check their portfolio every day, and they don’t let the news cycle or politics affect their mood.
That doesn’t mean being uninformed. It means recognizing that daily market fluctuations are noise, not signal, and that obsessively monitoring short-term swings is one of the fastest ways to undermine both your investing decisions and peace of mind.
Informed also means staying flexible. A retirement plan built in 2019 didn’t anticipate 2020. A plan built in 2021 didn’t anticipate the inflation of 2022. The retirees who stay calm aren’t the ones with a perfect plan — they’re the ones whose plan was built to flex from the start: spending a bit less in down-market years, allowing for more spending when markets are strong. Small adjustments, made early, prevent large problems later. The retirees who report the highest satisfaction tend to trust their financial plan, stay broadly aware of what’s happening in the world, and then go live their life.
Most people spend their entire lives working, building, and saving for their dream retirement. Do you really want to spend your retirement days going down internet rabbit holes?
See latest Happy Half Hour for more.
5. They Think About Legacy
Estate planning is part of this, of course — having an updated will, healthcare directives, beneficiary designations, and a clear conversation with adult children matters.
But the deeper version of legacy that shows up in happy retirees is about what they’re passing on while they’re still here. Passing on wisdom. Time with grandchildren. Skills and stories shared. Causes supported. Values lived out.
Hospice physician Jordan Grumet, interviewed in Christine Benz’s book, frames it as living so you have no regrets at the end. That framing — working backward from the life you want to have lived — tends to clarify priorities fast.
Morgan Housel, author of Psychology of Money, calls it the reverse obituary, “write down what you want to be remembered for when you die. Make sure your daily behavior lives up to your obituary.”
The Bottom Line
The happiest retirees aren’t necessarily the wealthiest. They’re the ones who treat retirement as a life redesign — financial, social, physical, and emotional — not just a math problem to solve. They know it’s important to retire to something, not from something.
With our own clients, the pattern is clear: they are the ones who stay in tune with the numbers but focus on living the life they worked so hard to build.
If you’re approaching this transition, putting in the financial work is essential — but don’t stop there. Ask yourself the softer questions: Who am I going to spend time with? What am I going to wake up for? What does a random Tuesday look like?
Get those answers right, and financial decisions get a lot simpler.
Get in Touch
If you’re starting to think through what your own retirement could look like — the financial side and everything around it — we’d be glad to be a sounding board. Please reach out to Team Lake Oswego at [email protected] for a conversation or to schedule a review.
Written by Tim Metz
Tim Metz joined Waverly Advisors in January 2026 after Pure Portfolios was acquired by Waverly Advisors, LLC. As a Wealth Advisor at Waverly, Tim brings years of experience in Investment Management, Retirement Planning, Family Office, and Trust Companies. Tim is passionate about solving complex financial issues and partnering with clients to understand them. Learn More About Tim…
Written by Sami Gianella, CPA
Sami Gianella joined Waverly Advisors in February 2026 following the acquisition of Pure Portfolios by Waverly Advisors, LLC. As an Associate Wealth Advisor at Waverly, Sami brings experience in investment management, comprehensive financial planning, estate review, tax strategy, and charitable and family gifting. Sami is passionate about helping clients develop their financial goals and partnering with them to build thoughtful, personalized strategies to achieve them. Learn More About Sami…
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